The Impossible Divorce
Matthew 5:31

    In the Law given by Moses, it was possible to get a divorce from one's wife, but once divorced  re-marriage was not possible. Divorce however was not the way God set thing up at the start when Man was created. Now our Master and Teacher Jesus tells us that if two people (male & female) are united in marriage, then they are to become as Adam and Eve were, one flesh and one spirit. We should make note that it says the “TWO” male and female become “ONE” flesh, not the one male with his many wives and concubines, nor does it say anything about male with male or female with female.

Matthew 19:3-9 Webster The Pharisees also came to him, tempting him, and saying to him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said to them, Have ye not read, that he who made them, at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. Therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7 They say to him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He saith to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, Whoever shall put away his wife, except for lewdness, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoever marrieth her who is put away, committeth adultery.

    If they are one flesh, then it is impossible for a man to separate his wife from himself unless he kills her, and a woman to separate her husband from herself, unless she kills him. Thus if a couple get a divorce on account of fornication, then it remains impossible for them to remarry someone else until there original partner falls asleep in death. A divorced couple can, of course, get back together, and so a divorce, as defined by Jesus is really a separation, but suppose you do get a divorce for the sake of fornication, and your ex-wife or ex-husband yokes themselves with God knows who, possibly disgusting diseased partners, in the interim?  Are you willing to share the same bed with such an one, if they come back to you? Likely not, although you should still forgive them, but that doesn't mean you have to sleep with them again, thus the right to a separation. Now one might conclude that the way from falling into this trap is to be very careful of whom one marries, and this is wise thinking, but even this is not a guarantee  because acts of adultery can be easily hidden from view (Pro 30:18-20).  This is one reason why it is not advisable to get married and this is why Jesus talks of men making themselves eunuchs on account of the kingdom of the heavens. Jesus was/is 100% serious and he was/is speaking in literal terms. 

Mark 10:11-12 GNB  He said to them, "A man who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against his wife.  12  In the same way, a woman who divorces her husband and marries another man commits adultery."

Now, one other area we should point out is the matter of faith, if a man is truly faithful to God, and he desires a wife, God will yoke him to a faithful one. Here is some good advice  on women, men, and sex from our forefather, Jesus, son of Sirach.

Choosing a Wife

Sirach 36:18 Any kind of food can be eaten, but some foods are better than others.

Sirach 36:19 And just as the tongue can distinguish the flavors of different kinds of meat, so a sharp mind can detect lies.

Sirach 36:20 A person with a warped mind causes trouble, but an experienced person knows how to pay it back.

Sirach 36:21 A woman has to take any man as a husband, but a man must choose his wife carefully.

Sirach 36:22 A woman's beauty makes a man happy; there is no fairer sight for the human eye to see.

Sirach 36:23 If the woman is kind and gentle in her speech, her husband is the most fortunate of men.

Sirach 36:24 When a man marries, he gets the finest thing he will ever have-a wife to help and encourage him.

Sirach 36:25 If property is not fenced in, thieves will wander in and help themselves. And if a man has no wife, he is a sighing wanderer;

Sirach 36:26 people have no more trust in a homeless person who sleeps in a different place every night than they have in a wandering thief who goes from town to town.

Sexual Sins

Sirach 23:16 There are any number of ways to sin and bring down the Lord's anger, but sexual passion is a hot, blazing fire that cannot be put out at will; it can only burn itself out. A man who lives for nothing but sexual enjoyment will keep on until that fire destroys him.

Sirach 23:17 To such a man all women are desirable, and he can never get enough as long as he lives.

Sirach 23:18 The man who is unfaithful to his wife thinks to himself, "No one will ever know. It's dark in here, and no one sees me. I have nothing to worry about. As for the Most High, he won't even notice."

Sirach 23:19 This man is only afraid of other people. He doesn't realize that the eyes of the Lord are 10,000 times brighter than the sun, that he sees everything we do, even when we try to hide it.

Sirach 23:20 He knew everything before he created the world, as well as after.

Sirach 23:21 That sinful man will be caught when he least expects it, and punished publicly.

Sirach 23:22 The same is true of a woman who is unfaithful to her husband and presents him with a child by another man.

Sirach 23:23 In the first place, she has broken the Law of the Most High. In the second place, she has wronged her husband. And in the third place, she has made a whore of herself by committing adultery and bearing the child of a man not her husband.

 Sirach 23:24-25 The children will suffer for her sin. They will not be able to find a place in society or establish families. She herself will be brought before the assembly

Sirach 23:26 and permanently disgraced. There will be a curse on her memory. After she is gone,

Sirach 23:27 everyone will realize that nothing is better than fearing the Lord, nothing is sweeter than keeping his commands.

Advice about Women

Sirach 9:1 Don't be jealous of the wife you love. You will only be teaching her how to do you harm.

Sirach 9:2 Do not surrender your dignity to any woman.

Sirach 9:3 Keep away from other men's wives or they will trap you.

Sirach 9:4 Don't keep company with female musicians; they will trick you.

Sirach 9:5 Don't look too intently at a virgin, or you may find yourself forced to pay a bride price.

Sirach 9:6 Don't give yourself to prostitutes, or you may lose everything you own.

Sirach 9:7 So don't go looking in the streets or wandering around in the run-down parts of town.

Sirach 9:8 When you see a good-looking woman, look the other way; don't let your mind dwell on the beauty of any woman who is not your wife. Many men have been led astray by a woman's beauty. It kindles passion as if it were fire.

Sirach 9:9 Don't sit down to eat with another man's wife or join her to a drink. You may give in to the temptation of her charms and be destroyed by your passion.

Sirach 25:13 No wound is as serious as wounded love. No troubles are as serious as the troubles that women can cause.

Sirach 25:14 No sufferings are worse than the sufferings caused by people who hate you. No revenge is worse than revenge taken by an enemy.

Sirach 25:15 No poison is deadlier than the poison of a snake, and no anger is deadlier than the anger of a woman.

Sirach 25:16 I would rather live in the same house with a lion or a dragon than with a bad wife.

Sirach 25:17 When a wife is in a bad mood, her expression changes until she looks like an angry bear.

Sirach 25:18 Her husband has to go and eat with the neighbors, where he can't hold back his bitter sighs.

Sirach 25:19 Compared with the troubles caused by a woman, any other trouble looks small. May such women suffer the fate of sinners!

Sirach 25:20 A quiet man living with a nagging wife is like an old man climbing up a sandy hill.

Sirach 25:21 Never lose your head over a woman's beauty, and don't try to win a woman because she is wealthy.

Sirach 25:22 When a man is supported by his wife, there is sure to be anger, arrogance, and humiliation.

Sirach 25:23 A bad wife will make her husband gloomy and depressed, and break his heart. Show me a timid man who can never make up his mind, and I will show you a wife who doesn't make her husband happy.

Sirach 25:24 Sin began with a woman, and we must all die because of her.

Sirach 25:25 Don't let a bad wife have her way, any more than you allow water to leak from your cistern.

Sirach 25:26 If she won't do as you tell her, divorce her (Mat 5:32).

Sirach 26:1 The husband of a good wife is a fortunate man; he will live twice as long because of her.

Sirach 26:2 A fine wife is a joy to her husband, and he can live out his years in peace.

Sirach 26:3 A good wife is among the precious blessings given to those who fear the Lord.

Sirach 26:4 Whether such men are rich or poor, they will be happy and always look cheerful.

Sirach 26:5 There are four things that scare me: vicious rumors spread around town, a gathering mob, false accusations-these are all worse than death.

Sirach 26:6 But a woman jealous of another woman causes heartache and grief; her tongue lashes out at everyone.

Sirach 26:7 A bad wife is like a yoke that doesn't fit. Trying to control her is like holding a scorpion.

Sirach 26:8 A drunken woman is an infuriating sight; she can't conceal her shameless behavior.

Sirach 26:9 You can tell an unfaithful wife by the bold and flirting look in her eyes.

Sirach 26:10 If your daughter is determined to have her own way, keep a close watch on her. If you don't, she'll take advantage of any chance she gets.

Sirach 26:11 If she is too self-willed, be on guard, and don't be surprised if she disappoints you.

Sirach 26:12 She'll spread her legs anywhere for any man who wants her, just as a thirsty traveler will drink whatever water is available.

Sirach 26:13 A gracious wife is her husband's delight; her abilities make him a stronger man.

Sirach 26:14 A wife who doesn't talk too much is a gift from the Lord. Such restraint is admirable beyond words.

Sirach 26:15 A modest wife has endless charm; it is a quality too precious to measure.

Sirach 26:16 The beauty of a good wife in her well-kept home is like the noonday sun shining in the Lord's sky.

Sirach 26:17 Her beautiful face and attractive figure are as lovely as the light from the sacred lamp-stand in the Temple,

Sirach 26:18 And like its gold shaft set on its silver base are her shapely legs and strong ankles.

Sirach 26:19 My child, stay healthy while you are young, and don't give your strength to strangers.

Sirach 26:20 Search the whole land for a fertile field, and plant it with your own seed, trusting your own good stock.

Sirach 26:21 Then your children will survive and grow up confident of their good family.

Sirach 26:22 A prostitute is like spit; a married woman who has affairs brings death to her lovers.

Sirach 26:23 A lawless man will get a godless wife, as he deserves, but a man who honors the Lord will have a devout wife.

Sirach 26:24 A shameless wife enjoys making a disgrace of herself, but a modest wife will act modestly even alone with her husband.

Sirach 26:25 A self-willed woman is a bitch, but a woman with a sense of decency honors the Lord.

Sirach 26:26 A wife who honors her husband will seem wise to everyone; but if she dishonors him by her overbearing attitude, everyone will know that she is ungodly. Fortunate is the husband of a good wife, because he will live twice as long.

Sirach 26:27 A loud-mouthed, talkative woman is like a trumpet sounding the signal for attack, and any man who has such a wife will spend his life at war.

Sirach 42:6 It is wise to lock things up if you cannot trust your wife or if too many people are around.

Fathers and Daughters

Sirach 42:9 Although he will not let his daughter know it, a father will lie awake at night worrying about her. If she is young, he worries that she might not get married. If she is already married, he worries about her happiness.

Sirach 42:10 If she is a virgin, he worries that she might be seduced and become pregnant while living in his house. If she is married, he worries that she might be unfaithful, or that she might not be able to have children.

Sirach 42:11 Keep a close watch over your daughter if she is determined to have her own way. If you don't she may make a fool of you in front of your enemies. You will be a constant joke to everyone in town, a public disgrace. Make sure that her room has no windows or any place where she can look out to the entrance of the house.

Sirach 42:12 Don't let her show off her beauty in front of men, or spend her time talking with women.

Sirach 42:13 Women hurt other women just as moths damage clothing.

Sirach 42:14 A man's wickedness is better than a woman's goodness; women bring shame and disgrace.

Sirach 22:3 It is a disgrace to a father to have an undisciplined child, especially if it is a daughter.

Sirach 22:4 A sensible daughter will get a husband, but a shameless daughter brings her father grief.

Sirach 22:5 A girl with no sense of propriety will disgrace both her husband and her father; neither will have any respect for her.